Friday, May 22, 2015

#2AM Questions

photo by August Brill


The question you should consider
is do you love me

or do you love the thought of me---
 
the fantasy you've created to keep you warm
while we are apart

& the one I need the answer for
is if you can tell the difference.


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16 comments:

  1. A tricky situation ~ I have thoughts like these at #2am~

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  2. Yes, sometimes we do create the image of a person the way we want it.

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  3. and the problem comes when the image doesn't fit the image.. there are a reasons why we should sleep at 2am I think...

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  4. Now this is the kind of question that keeps us revolving in circles at 2 AM. Well penned!

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  5. This is a difficult question. In the beginning our hormones and fantasies are in overdrive so it is very difficult to peek behind those illusions. Love itself is exhilarating but I think over time love deepens and the masks fall away (or at least they slip on occasion) and if we don't run off screaming we can be sure that we've found something special haha Sam said to me once that he feels more comfortable and more himself when he is with me, then when is alone or with anyone else I think there is something to that.

    mindlovemisery

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  6. These questions...they are like trying to sleep on broken glass, and the answers...well. Poetry at its best here.

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  7. Inside the word "question" is "quest I('m) on." It appears you are on one and are asking the other person if she is on the same quest. The ending is strong; the obvious bitterness in your voice makes it clear that you've already decided on the answer.

    Maybe you should ask yourself the same question about your love for her. With that being said, I actually identify with this poem in a different way; I have felt these emotions in relation to my children, my family, and everyone I've ever met. All-people expect all-other-people to be what the imagination has created. When we can't be what others want us to be, we inevitably disappoint everyone. It pretty much makes me want to give up on ever having any sort of relationship with anyone.

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  8. At my point in life, I have become so much more aware of the illusions that have sustained me at times. But I suppose that these are defense mechanisms that help us get through tough times and that part of "growing up" is learning to acknowledge them, and then choose to accept or reject them. Google isn't allowing me to publish under wordpress--so frustrating.

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  9. Indeed it is important to know if someone really loves YOU! Sometimes people do fall in love with an illusion. Perhaps neither even realizes it until much later.

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  10. straight to the heart of the matter ~

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  11. Not an easy situation.... We want to be loved for who we are .

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  12. Ah those early morning hours when we ponder what is reality and what is fantasy and what is in that gray area we need to explore more to find the answers we seek.

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  13. Love me or the thought of me - wow, that's a powerful question.

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  14. I guess love starts out easily with the fantasy of loving, bu time is what answers the question, once reality sets in and a person is revealed in everyday life. Good poem, good question.

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  15. It all depends on the foundation of your relationship. How much trust there is. Questions like do you love me as much as I love you, underlied by can I really believe you, do I see the real you, etc.

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  16. The old daisy chain question... does he love me, does he love me not! All I can say here is that in my own personal experience, when it's true, reciprocated love, there is no question to ask ... you just know!!

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